Bride Kidnapping - ATradition that must be stopped

Bride Kidnapping ( From Wikipedia )

also known as marriage by abduction or marriage by capture, is a practice throughout history and around the world in which a man abducts the woman he wishes to marry. Bride kidnapping still occurs in countries spanning Central Asia, the Caucasus region, and parts of Africa, and among peoples as diverse as the Hmong in southeast Asia, the Tzeltal in Mexico, and the Romani in Europe. In most countries, bride kidnapping is considered a sex crime, rather than a valid form of marriage. Some versions of it may also be seen as falling along the continuum between forced marriage and arranged marriage. The term is sometimes used to include not only abductions, but also elopements, in which a couple runs away together and seeks the consent of their parents later; these may be referred to as nonconsensual and consensual abductions respectively. However, even when the practice is against the law, judicial enforcement remains lax, particularly in Kyrgyzstan, Chechnya, and Georgia.

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I remember back in College my mom used to tell me to be cautious of dating a pure Caviteneo since it was an old saying that if a traditional Cavitenoe likes you, "itatanan ka nila " till your family agrees to the marriage.
True or not, in this modern age, that saying has become more of an old wives tale.

However in some countries and as parodied in the movie Borat, Bride Kidnappings are still rampant
Sad to say brides kidnapped are also victim of rape as a way to coerce them to the forced marriage.
In some cases even if they remain pure and are able to escape or is rescued, they are no longer a marraigable woman

This You Tube Video a Documentary of a Bride Kidnapping in Kyrgystan shows how the men will "kidnap" a girl he likes.
What made me mad is his reasons for doing such
His family needs an extra helper
He needs to move up in his family heirchy through marriage

And what pissed me off is that the man treats the gilr as a dog to be trained and the man's family was no help either. The grandmother was thinking of making the poor girl do the chores. And even when the girl was rescued, is planning to get the poor girl back.

Part 1: Bride Kidnapping Documentary

What saddens me most is that in part 2 of the video, even the girls parents are now forcing her to go on with the marriage to save face. This even with the support of a local school and support group

If you look at the film, this rural country is just as modern as the Philippine farm provinces, the men had a car, they even had cellphones ( Nokia brands ). They wore modern clothes. I noticed that one of the girls wore a D and G pink shirt.
Technologically wise they were catching up to the world.
Moral wise they are declining. Studies show that the case of child and bride kidnappings has risen throughout the years, and even when some countries have laws against them, little or nothing are done to apprehend the suspects.

I am posting this thread to raise awareness for women's rights hopefully that in the near future, such type of sex crimes will be prevented.

The Seaworld Experience

Hello

It has been forever since my last post.

As a recap of things. I went back home to the Philippine after a much needed vacation due to stress at work, life and just basic burnout and homesickness.

When I came back, there is a noticeable change in my character. The word would be “ Recharged “.

Philippines was fun, but too short. I was able to save enough money despite my debts for a meager vacation, which was monopolized by my dad wanting to take me to all my relatives. Other than that, I went to see the docs to make the necessary check ups. I do have to admit my weakness were these Luxury massages that eased my back pains. You can get a really got classy massage in the Philippines for as low as $14.oo.

This Memorial day weekend, I needed additional unwinding. Since I have this long bucket list of things that I wanted to do. I finally crossed out one. A close encounter with a Dolphin.

I was able to save 45 Dollars to pay the extra fee in Seaworld to do the Dolphin experience. It was really fun and the professional photos taken by the overpriced staff photographer showed how much I was giggling and glowing on the delight of being able to fulfill one of my childhood dreams.

My luck got better when Seaworld had the interact with a Manta Ray pool for free. Despite the scary rep it has, manta Rays are like piglets. The suck the fish out of your hands and when they go up to the water, their faces have a snout like mouth. Infact THEY HAVE A SNOUT. They even make snorting sounds like a pig. It was cute and they were gentle creatures.

I also rode Journey to Atlantis, a water log ride similar to the Philippines Splash island ride in Magic Kingdom. But since I have a fear of falling down ( not heights ), I remedied my situation by hiding in my sweater and brazing myself for the fall. WHICH I WILL NEVER DO AGAIN.

In other words, I had such fun and it was a well deserved, well spend weekend. A change from my last posts which were sad.

Till my next post guys.

The trip to back to Manila and Mothers day

First and foremost

Happy Mothers Day.

To all mothers and mothers to be. My mom passed away 2 years ago and yet even though we did not get along much in the latter years. I am finding myself loving more and missing her more as each day pass by. Why? Not becuase she was my mom, but becuase it was her character that defined her. And if not then it would not be her.

As for my trip. Japan was a blast. I tried this Vending Machine Shower. It was 500 Yen, and small room not more bigger that you outstreching your arms. But it had a power shower head. Great shampoo, clean facilities and soft towels.

I also went to a store that had this origami display of complicated and articstic proportions.

I did a little shopping and embrassed myself by tripping yet my japanese is at least flawless

In Manila, upon arriving from the airport. Awave of heat hit me. Not before we got stuck in a 4 hour delay after a plane busted its tires in the NAIA runway. We had to be diverted first to Clark Airbase.

I arrived with no one to pick me up. My arrival was a suprise to my family. Unfortunately, I was alone and looking stupid outside NAIA with all these blood suckers asking for tips at the airport.

So I armed myself with a baseball bat and a mi game face. Rode a taxi and arrived at my home at 5 am. the ringer was out so I had to bang at the door. More funny was that my dad was out in Laugna, since his two other siblings arrived from London and Virginia. They were out drinking.

Papa was drunk when I called him. He thought I was still in Japa. By the time he realized I was really home, he came rushing back home 2 hours later. Along with him was a hoard of my relatives.

In my 2 weeks in the Philippines, I came to see my mom's grave, I went to Sampalok lake, I went to Levle Up, Moa, horseback riding and China town.

The best part were the Spa's. I had a spa every 4 days. It was affordable in my part. I save up for it and had the most expensive and longest massage I can afford. My back has been killing me all month.

I bought my first jade bracelet in the Vira Mall shopping area. I was tempted to buy a new phone but ddint.

The food was great. First thing I asked my dad to make was Ginataang Alimango claws. And it was sooo good

I enjoyed my stay sooo much.

Till next year